Ghosting (Urban Dictionary):giving the “ultimate silent treatment”, and occurs when a dater, “suddenly [ceases] all communication with someone the subject is dating, but no longer wishes to date”.
When Charlize Theron did it to Sean Penn, it entered the modern lexicon. Yet ghosting has been around for a while now. Dumping someone, whether that is a significant other, or a friend that you have no use for anymore, in this fashion has to be the most cowardly, lily livered way to do things.
I should know. I’ve been there.
In the past year, a bunch of ladies I considered good friends decided that I wasn’t good enough for them. There was no falling out. Just a gradual withdrawal. The sad part being that not one of them had the gumption to approach me and tell me exactly what I had done wrong. The irony was that some of them had met through me. Ah! The vagaries of life.
So, is ghosting a good thing or bad? I think that depends on the situation. If withdrawal without explanation is the only route available, then by all means ghost away. However, if open communication and dialogue are still means to reach an amicable solution, whether that be the termination of a relationship, or setting the record straight, then as rational adults that should be the route we must take.
I say this knowing full well that for a large number of people confrontation is unpalatable. Yet, for any kind of closure to occur, confrontation is necessary. Fading out of someone’s life, or relegating them to the background without any explanation being proffered is hurtful, denigrating, unkind and most of all, power play of the worst order.
Their loss my dear… The plus side of the above is the rest of us get more of you! MWAH! Never ghost out unless you have lost your backbone… just saying… Confrontation or not.. If someone ceases to add value to your world or your not adding it to theirs.. Thank them for the run and the good memories.. let the rest go & let them know how you feel. Then walk away with head held high or it will always be be the “what if thought” that life is to short to have!
Well said darling! ❤️